There Is No ‘How To’ Rule Book
One common theme in most of our posts on this blog is the message that any couple exploring a spanking or discipline relationship should be very honest with each other about what they need and expect, what works for them, and maybe even more important what doesn’t work for them.
Our blog and many of the other sites out there on this topic hopefully stimulates that conversation and not dictate it, because there is no right or wrong. Don’t be afraid to experiment and figure out what works for you and what doesn’t, and communicate with complete honesty about what you like and what don’t like because in the end it only works if it works for you.
I bring this up because we hear from many people who say “we are thinking about a discipline relationship” and most of them are looking for some kind of ‘how to rule book’ on exactly how a discipline relationship should work. Well, there isn’t one – and while many have views based on what works for them, I don’t believe that there is any such thing as a typical DD relationship.
Here are some of the basic things that we have discovered work for us;
Keep the rules simple, and remember those rules can and should develop over time.
Be respectful of each other and understand your different roles in the relationship.
It’s ok to ask for a spanking when you feel you need the special attention. A spanking doesn’t need to only happen when the HOH decides it should. As you probably know, we are not always the best mind readers.
Finally, communicate – always be honest with each other about your expectations, and what you like and what you don’t like when it comes to spanking or being spanked. If not, you will likely find more frustration than fulfillment.